diff --git a/toxcore/Messenger.c b/toxcore/Messenger.c
index ced1e845..267670f9 100644
--- a/toxcore/Messenger.c
+++ b/toxcore/Messenger.c
@@ -885,7 +885,12 @@ static IP_Port get_friend_ipport(Messenger *m, int32_t friendnumber)
 
     int crypt_id = m->friendlist[friendnumber].crypt_connection_id;
 
-    if (is_cryptoconnected(m->net_crypto, crypt_id) != CRYPTO_CONN_ESTABLISHED)
+    uint8_t direct_connected;
+
+    if (crypto_connection_status(m->net_crypto, crypt_id, &direct_connected) != CRYPTO_CONN_ESTABLISHED)
+        return zero;
+
+    if (direct_connected == 0)
         return zero;
 
     return m->net_crypto->crypto_connections[crypt_id].ip_port;
@@ -2201,10 +2206,15 @@ void do_friends(Messenger *m)
                 set_conection_dht_public_key(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id, dht_public_key);
             }
 
-            IP_Port friendip;
+            uint8_t direct_connected;
+            unsigned int status = crypto_connection_status(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id, &direct_connected);
 
-            if (onion_getfriendip(m->onion_c, m->friendlist[i].onion_friendnum, &friendip) == 1) {
-                set_direct_ip_port(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id, friendip);
+            if (direct_connected == 0 || status == CRYPTO_CONN_COOKIE_REQUESTING) {
+                IP_Port friendip;
+
+                if (onion_getfriendip(m->onion_c, m->friendlist[i].onion_friendnum, &friendip) == 1) {
+                    set_direct_ip_port(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id, friendip);
+                }
             }
         }
 
@@ -2233,13 +2243,6 @@ void do_friends(Messenger *m)
                 send_ping(m, i);
             }
 
-            if (is_cryptoconnected(m->net_crypto,
-                                   m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id) == CRYPTO_CONN_TIMED_OUT) { /* If the connection timed out, kill it. */
-                crypto_kill(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id);
-                m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id = -1;
-                set_friend_status(m, i, FRIEND_CONFIRMED);
-            }
-
             if (m->friendlist[i].ping_lastrecv + FRIEND_CONNECTION_TIMEOUT < temp_time) {
                 /* If we stopped receiving ping packets, kill it. */
                 crypto_kill(m->net_crypto, m->friendlist[i].crypt_connection_id);
diff --git a/toxcore/net_crypto.c b/toxcore/net_crypto.c
index a5149a7c..685ce653 100644
--- a/toxcore/net_crypto.c
+++ b/toxcore/net_crypto.c
@@ -1309,7 +1309,6 @@ int accept_crypto_connection(Net_Crypto *c, New_Connection *n_c)
     if (create_send_handshake(c, crypt_connection_id, n_c->cookie) != 0)
         return -1;
 
-    send_temp_packet(c, crypt_connection_id);
     conn->status = CRYPTO_CONN_NOT_CONFIRMED;
     conn->packet_send_rate = CRYPTO_PACKET_MIN_RATE;
     crypto_connection_add_source(c, crypt_connection_id, n_c->source);
@@ -1651,18 +1650,23 @@ int crypto_kill(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id)
     return wipe_crypto_connection(c, crypt_connection_id);
 }
 
-/*  return 0 if no connection.
- *  return 1 we have sent a handshake.
- *  return 2 if connection is not confirmed yet (we have received a handshake but no empty data packet).
- *  return 3 if the connection is established.
- *  return 4 if the connection is timed out and waiting to be killed.
+/* return one of CRYPTO_CONN_* values indicating the state of the connection.
+ *
+ * sets direct_connected to 1 if connection connects directly to other, 0 if it isn't.
  */
-int is_cryptoconnected(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id)
+unsigned int crypto_connection_status(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id, uint8_t *direct_connected)
 {
-    if ((unsigned int)crypt_connection_id < c->crypto_connections_length)
-        return c->crypto_connections[crypt_connection_id].status;
+    Crypto_Connection *conn = get_crypto_connection(c, crypt_connection_id);
 
-    return CRYPTO_CONN_NO_CONNECTION;
+    if (conn == 0)
+        return CRYPTO_CONN_NO_CONNECTION;
+
+    *direct_connected = 0;
+
+    if ((CRYPTO_SEND_PACKET_INTERVAL * MAX_NUM_SENDPACKET_TRIES + conn->direct_lastrecv_time) > current_time_monotonic())
+        *direct_connected = 1;
+
+    return conn->status;
 }
 
 void new_keys(Net_Crypto *c)
diff --git a/toxcore/net_crypto.h b/toxcore/net_crypto.h
index 7d616be6..a010c4d2 100644
--- a/toxcore/net_crypto.h
+++ b/toxcore/net_crypto.h
@@ -235,13 +235,11 @@ int64_t write_cryptpacket(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id, uint8_t *data,
 int crypto_kill(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id);
 
 
-/*  return 0 if no connection.
- *  return 1 we have sent a handshake
- *  return 2 if connexion is not confirmed yet (we have received a handshake but no empty data packet).
- *  return 3 if the connection is established.
- *  return 4 if the connection is timed out and waiting to be killed.
+/* return one of CRYPTO_CONN_* values indicating the state of the connection.
+ *
+ * sets direct_connected to 1 if connection connects directly to other, 0 if it isn't.
  */
-int is_cryptoconnected(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id);
+unsigned int crypto_connection_status(Net_Crypto *c, int crypt_connection_id, uint8_t *direct_connected);
 
 
 /* Generate our public and private keys.